Kate's Tip of the Week
Is there anything you should say sorry for?
How do you forgive someone when they've hurt you? It can be very hard and very painful.
If someone acknowledges their mistake and says they're sorry, then it's a little easier to be generous and let the thing go, not hold it against them. But can you or should you forgive them, if they don't seem sorry?
What happens inside when we don't forgive someone. The hurt sits there like an infection and it festers, it spreads out and colours our view of life. It makes us hard inside, hard, unyielding, bitter. It actually damages us.
What happens when we forgive someone. It means letting go on our desire to punish or hurt them. We let go on our demand to be repaid for the hurt inflicted. We give up on any desire to take revenge. It hurts, but somehow, it's more the hurt of having a wound cleaned than the hurt of the wound inflicted in the first place. It brings us back into relationship again. There may be new bridges to build. We may find new levels where we need to choose to forgive. We may need to walk in the forgiveness, to make daily decisions not to pick the offense up again, but the wound is drawn and the poison can drain out and healing can begin.
When you've hurt your loved one, do you want them to forgive you?
Is there anything you need to forgive each other for. Don't leave it too long.
Tip by Kate
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